Beyond Decorating
Nov 14th, 2008 by Lauri
Last weekend, at a party, I chatted with an acquaintance that had come with a woman he’d been dating for a few years. As he and I spoke - she was across the room with the host - the man leaned in and said, “Since you’re a decorator you might be able to suggest something. Do you know, why Melanie and I haven’t gotten married?” I had no idea. “Because her house looks like the ones you see on Oprah where the people have so much stuff that they can’t even move around,” he said. “Do you mean she’s a compulsive hoarder?” I asked. “Yes. She’s a wonderful lady but you would not believe what her place looks like. I don’t know what to do.” he replied.
Well, unfortunately, I have seen this problem in a number of clients’ homes over the years. They usually hire me for a room or two, that is relatively clear of clutter, and then, after an hour or so of getting more comfortable with me, they shamefully reveal their secret and show me their rooms that each have one narrow path and piles of stuff that go, literally, from floor to ceiling. Although I feel equipped to deal with most situations I encounter, this is one that is totally outside the scope of my work: These individuals usually need a mental health professional who is equipped to help them understand why they are manifesting their problems this way.
If you (or someone you know) are dealing with this dilemma, therapy seems to help a great deal, based on what clients have shared with me. Should you notice signs that it is just starting to develop, try to deal with the predicament now instead of waiting a few months or years. Choosing to take action and get help, quickly, may alleviate the issue before it gets out of control.
You are so correct - it has nothing to do with interior design, etc. My mother is like this.
It must be difficult for you and your mother. I hope she is able to take action ASAP.